is the key to
survival for
bereaved parents
Talk to someone!

And through all the tears,
and the sadness
and the pain,
comes the one thought
that can make me
internally smile again:
   I have Loved!

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The first time a memory
slides over us like a wave
of warmth,
we have turned the
corner of our grief.

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This I can share
by Marilyn Heavlin

I have not experienced the death of my only child, but some of you have.
I have not experienced a child dying by suicide, but some of you have.
I have not watched my child fight a terminal illness, but some of you have.
None of us would dare say, “I know just how you feel.”
Even if our experiences are similar, no two situations are exactly alike.
But I can say,
I remember the pain when my child died – I remember the feelings of insanity
I remember the feelings of aloneness – I remember wishing I could die.
I remember wanting to share something with my child, but he wasn’t there.
So, my friend, our experiences have parts in common.  And parts that are different.
So, why should we listen to each other?
Do we have anything to share?  - Do you know what heartbreak feels like?
All of us do.
Do you know the numbness of grief?
All of us do.
Do you know what it’s like to have empty arms?
All of us do.
So let’s learn what we can of our commonalities.
We love a child but our child left too soon.



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